As the sole survivor of my immediate family, I often find myself reflecting on
the profound influence of certain people, places, and events from my youth.
Since my younger brother passed away a few years ago, I am the sole keeper of
the memories of my family's life and times. When Phred was alive, he and I
frequently took pleasure in sharing our most meaningful recollections of our
days together as kids, our reverence for our parents, and our perspectives on
the
zeitgeist of the 1960s and 1970s. Apart from old photographs and a
few sketchy diaries that we kept, the only first-hand knowledge of the most meaningful and
intimate moments in our family's history resides in my brain. Of course, that's
just how it is with life—and its inevitable passing. Whatever tangible marks one
might leave behind, the most personal, intimate parts of ourselves simply
depart.
Thanks to my fondness for revisiting much of the music my
parents enjoyed, I find myself wanting to articulate some of my most vivid
impressions from the mid-to-late 1960s and 1970s, when Mom and Dad were in their
thirties and forties, if just as a little reminder to myself. So, I'm going to
indulge the whim and see where it takes me.
My folks tended to be social animals. They frequently gathered with various
other couples, and for me, the most memorable of these was when they hosted
their regular Bridge Club at our house. We are talking a classy affair. There
were generally four to six couples in attendance, and everyone dressed in
their finest apparel. Mom didn't drink, but Dad was known to enjoy a few
spirits from time to time. For Bridge Club (and whatever other gatherings they
hosted), Mom always brought out the fancy china and drinking glasses, which
had silver bands around the tops, and Dad filled the crystal decanters with
bourbon and scotch. As they got themselves ready for the big event, Dad liked to put some music on our big console stereo, usually something in the
easy-listening department. For a spell, his favorite was Frank Sinatra's "Days
of Wine and Roses" album, which featured his version of "Moon River,"
otherwise made famous by Andy Williams. To this day, whenever I hear that
song, whoever performs it, I think of Mom and Dad prepping for a social event,
whether it be at our house or somewhere else.
Even though these were strictly adult events, I always found myself captivated
at those times by what I perceived as a special magic in the house. Even when
I went off to college, Mom and Dad were still active in numerous social—and,
more importantly—philanthropic gatherings. My parents, whether in public or in
the privacy of our home, were what I can only call classy, exceptionally
decent human beings. Of course, they had their faults, shortcomings, and blind
spots, as we all do. But Mom and Dad held themselves to such high standards in
thought, word, and deed that I despair of ever being able to truly emulate
them. Now, this last bit strays from my original reflective intent, but you
know, sometimes that happens, and since this is me essentially
rambling...there it is.
When I inherited our old house after Mom died, I kept all the surviving
trappings of those bygone days. Brugger and I now use those old glasses, the
china, the decanters to preserve what we can of that "classy" aspect of my
family's history.
I suspect that I'll be occasionally posting other such ramblings. Join me if
you like, but if not, I quite understand.
Till next time!
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| Mom & Dad, circa 1963 |